Working outcomeA recipient-specific shortlist and explicit avoid list.
The host
Look for repeatable operational help: a contained kit, stable drink zone, readable light, or help resetting after the game.
The collector and aesthete
Ask for a wish list, measurements, material preferences, and display constraints. Surprise is not always kindness in a specialized collection.
- Traveler: weight and containment.
- Learner: authorized, tradition-specific resources.
- Comedian: original language and correct fit.
The person who has everything
Offer time, access, documentation, conservation consultation, a group experience, or permission to choose nothing.
Keep the boundary visible
Vintage scholarship belongs to MahjongCharm; insider sayings belong to IYKYK; generic prestige gifts belong to NouveauMahj.